And no alcohol?!

First I want to say how wonderful my trip to Chicago was! It was seriously amazing! I guess I didnt realize how much I missed my Husband until I got a couple days with him. Saying goodbye was so hard this time. But it was so nice to spend the weekend being showered with kisses.

And now on to my gripe: my flight home. I swear to all that is holy I always have bad flight luck. Last night was no different. When I boarded the plane there was a man sitting in the aisle seat and a small boy in the middle seat. I just assumed that they were together until I sat down in my window seat. Shortly after I sat down the man in the aisle rang the call light and asked the flight attendant to ask the boy to stop kicking his seat. Ok, now it is apparent that the child is flying unaccompanied.

Its a four hour flight and the kid has nothing to do but annoy the two adults sitting around him (one of which was me!) during the flight he wiggled, squirmed, pushed my volume button (I was trying to watch the Micheal Jackson movie) unplugged my headphones, leaned over and raised the blinds, kicked me, asked for some of my snack and just generally annoyed the f*ck outta me.

If this had been 3 months ago I would have just ordered some Vodka or Rum and made myself a VERY strong drink and zonked out for the flight. But now being preggo I am boozeless! And extremely exhausted since I had planned on napping during the flight.

On another topic though, what type
Of parents would send their six year old unaccompanied AND without activities?! What type of morons are they? Did they expect that the rest of the passengers would entertain him?

Luckily he was removed from the flight first so I didnt have the opportunity to ask his guardians that exact question.

Ok…now back to our regularly scheduled whining.

Child rapists and pedophiles

So apparently the 11 year old who gave birth was the victim of rape. Ive read a ton about it over the last two days and it seems like the facts are that she was just a little girl who was raped by a family member of hers. Its horrible. And such a sad fact.

I have such an impossible time wrapping my brain around why anyone would find a little girl (or boy) appealing sexually. Why would anyone be that disgusting and cruel.

I was reading about this particular case and found a website that talks about pedophilia as a illness, comparing it to any other mental illness. I can see both sides of this, one way I think WHAT THE F*CK? Those people arent being forced to do this, nothing is making them. This is not like cancer, it is not an illness. Then the other side of me thinks about how crazy the concept of being turned on by a child is and makes me think that those people must be F*cking nuts.

So my question to my readers is, if you had the ability to punish this man (or anyother child rapist) for their crime, what is a suitable punishment?

Is “sexting” porn?

Reading the news today I see the article about the federal government who is trying to make a decision about whether this group of girls who sent naked photos of themselves through text messages should be charged with distributing child pornography.

My first question is, where were the parents? The second is, what type of
Punishment did the children get from the parents?

Do I think that this is distributing child porn? No. Do I think that the government shoul be getting involved? No.

If this happened during school hours, then those girls should be expelled. I think they should have their rights to cell phones removed until they are 18. But I dont think that they should be charged with kiddie porn nor should they have to register as sex offenders.

What do you think?

Hating Tricare even more….and some people are idiots.

Lets start with the simple facts, I have an ultasound next week on Wednesday. The reason for this ultrasound is so that I can get in to see the OB doctor early and get some additional workup to try and keep this pregnancy. Makes sense, right?

So I get a phone call from OB today, and they want to schedule me for an appointment for Feb 2 to talk with the OB doc. Thats not too bad. But then I ask, how soon do they usually start the Ob visits? And this just blows me away. The lady says that they like to have the first visit between 6-8 weeks. So I mention to her that I will be 8 weeks already by that time and then she says “Well this appointment isnt for your first OB visit, you will have to schedule that a different time, this is just a visit to discuss your history of loss.”

SO let me get this straight, I am higher risk and therefore you are going to give me an appointment LATER than the average pregnancy? WTF? What is wrong with people? Is this making any sense to anyone else?

Im trying to keep my cool, because it seems that no one seems to understand whats going on. At this point I think the only thing on my side is prayer, and thats because the doctors and staff arent doing their jobs.

Here’s to praying that the ultrasound goes well and that all this was nothing but a speed bump.

Parents who let their children drink

I know this uh…parent who has a teenager and after the New Years party that child posted pictures of her and her Mom taking shots and playing beer pong. This child is legally an adult but still in high school and not old enough to drink.

My issue is that first I think it is incredibly inappropriate for a parent to aid their child in breaking the law, and second to “get trashed” with your child is just unacceptable.

My question is, is it better to have your children drinking at home? Or should parents be preaching the laws and just forbidding the drinking until legal age?

More Tricare screw-ups

And today the shit hit the fan. Really. I show up for my ultrasound at 0645 for a 0730 appt, and at 0715 the ultrasound tech comes out and asks me to follow her. So I head back and once we get into the hallway the lady starts lecturing me about how it is too early to have an ultrasound and that I need to just take a chill pill and go home and come back when I am 12 weeks along, because until then there is nothing that anyone can do for me. Then she proceeds to tell me that I am a hypochondriac and that there is no need for an ultrasound this early, and that this isnt her job it is family practices job.

I am standing there all flabbergasted and I couldnt think of anything to say while she was lecturing me. I really couldnt even catch my breath, I just said “oh oh ok….” and thats all that could come out of my mouth.

And then as I walked away, I felt Typheni starting to come out of her cage. I could feel my heart rate raise, my skin got flushed and my mind got incredibly clear. This means war.

I stormed over to family practice and got a walk in appointment with my PCP. He said he would get started on getting me an ultrasound in a different location, and he would call me later today. From there I headed o
ver to the Tricare service desk, I filed a complaint there and then discussed with them moving to an outside provider. After that I headed to Customer service, I spoke with the lead HR lady and explained the situation to her. She wrote down all my details and everything that was said by the tech, after she finished writing she asked me what I hoped to achieve (as that is part of her proceedure), I explained that I completely understand that I am still early and that there may not be much, if anything that can be seen yet and that I might end up coming back again in another week, but my goal in coming to her is that I want the tech fired. I want her gone.

She looked shocked at me response, and I explained to her that I have atleast 6 more months of my pregnancy that will be spent here (God willing) and that I have 6 months until I transfer for the Big Move and I intend to spend that time pursuing the conclusion of this event. I will have justice, I will have her job. I will not let anyone treat me like this ever again. EVER.

This is war.

The drama never ends.

More on the specifics of this later tonight once I have the details worked out.

But lets just say that if it is what I think it is, its ridiculous.

Was that random enough?

First the Nurse, Then Social worker, and finally the Doctor….

They all passed the buck. No one wanted to be the bearer of bad news. No one wanted to be the one that she remembered for the rest of her life. No one wanted to be the one to tell her that her husband was dead.

They all passed the buck. And in the process they all lost my respect.

Drunk driving makes Nurses cry

I wrote about how you will cry every day as a Nursing student. Im told you will cry everyday as a Nurse. But today I cried as a Wife. I cried as a Daughter. I cried for the loss of another. I cried because I felt so helpless. I cried because I felt just so much.

I watched a Wife recieve the news that her Husband had passed away. Hearing her cry, weep, scream to let out the emotion left me sobbing. I wanted to wrap my arms around her and make her hurt go away. But more than that I wanted to hug my husband. I wanted to know that he is ok. I wanted some reassurance that I wont lose him.

As if that wasnt painful enough, I heard the Wifes yelps of grief as she shared the news with her daughter. That pain knocked me to my feet. Some things I cant comprehend. Some things are too painful to imagine.

Drunk driving ruins lives. It causes grief that is unimaginable. No one is immune.

Please dont drink and drive.

Things that I will never understand

• Parents who use their children as leverage. Wouldnt you want them to have a good relationship with their other parent(s)?
• People who neglect their animals
• People who think that remorse and grief have time limits
• People who think that animals are like accesories, when one “expires” you just “replace” it.

Im taking a sociology class about Family dynamics. And although I am not learning a whole lot from the class, simply the topic of family dynamics has made me think a little bit more about my own “blended” family.

What is your family? Who do you consider to be your family? Dogs? Kids? parents? grandparents? Close friends?

Basically, tell me about your TRIBE.